“Heaven knows we need never be ashamed of our tears, for they are rain upon the blinding dust of earth, overlying our hard hearts”. -Charles Dickens in Great Expectations
Areas of Focus
Vicarious Trauma/Burn Out
Substance Use/Harm Reduction
Re-entry/Post Incarceration Healing
How I Think About Healing
One of the things I hear the most about healing is that people feel like they keep talking about the same thing over and over. That they are just going in a circle. But in my experience healing is gyre or a spiral. It winds up and down like the path of a bird moving on the wind. We return to the same spot on the spiral and while it might be the same place but we are slightly different. We aren't really just writing the same paragraph. We don't always feel different or notice the small shifts. It can take outside feedback or reflection from others, including a therapist to point out what is new in our story as we come around again on this spiral.
Healing is about celebrating this movement. How can we not have many layers, many facets, many parts of our being that move as go through our lives? All of our identities, all the systems that impact us in respect to those identities, all of our experiences.
This is the radical part of healing. Capitalism and colonization thrive on atomization, hacks, one size fits all and a lot of boxes. Simplicity is celebrated.
I see healing as moving away from simplicity to write the parts of the story have we forgotten. It is a radical act to slow down and be with all the parts of our stories. It is a radical act to be with all the facets of us that refract the light and show our unique beauty. It is in the complexities and nuances, in the seeming contradictions and paradoxes that we find ourselves and find the path we are meant to walk.
Who I Work With
I work with people when they’re feeling stuck, lost, or groundless. This might show up in habits like substance use, disordered eating, difficulty sleeping. Some people feel overwhelmed, angry and irritated, with feelings of helplessness. People feel a tension between being themselves and some unknown sense of who they feel they should be. Sometimes they see a disconnect at work and feel burnt out. Shame is a common theme that comes up for people.
I work with people who tend to be perfectionists or people pleasers, caregivers and helpers of the world. People who feel successful in some areas of their life but struggle in building relationships. I work with people who hold marginalized identities but also feel othered in their communities. If this feels like you, we might be a good fit.
I offer a free 20-30 minute introductory meeting so we can see if we’re a good fit for each other. This can be by phone or video using doxy.me, a HIPAA compliant telehealth program. In this meeting I’ll ask you what is bringing you in at this time and ask you some questions. I’ll share about how I work. Then you can ask me whatever you need to know to support you in making your decision. At the end we’ll discuss if we want to schedule an initial session. To schedule the introductory meeting click work with me or email firstname.lastname@example.org.