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Individual Therapy for Adults
I focus on relationship and practice: restorative, liberation and body centered practices. I sit with people and listen for the heart in people that has been lost or repressed. I offer gentle challenges to fixed thoughts so people can learn new ways of being.
The role I play in the healing process is to try and create a space where people can mess up, where practices are used to embody the true self, and where experiences integrate into a lifelong healing journey. We work together to nurture tendrils of healing that start in the room and grow out into life.
I offer 50 minute weekly or biweekly sessions. See Fee section for Fee Scale.
Relationships of all styles and structures are welcome. Monogamous, Non-monogamous, polyamorous, hierarchical, anarchist, triads, emotional connections, intimate connections, and on and on. All relationships can have strengths and challenges, and therapy can address the needs of your unique relationship.
In therapy with relationships, I believe in supporting every person involved, as well as the relationship itself. I strive to assist you in acknowledging and addressing daily challenges, big decision making, ongoing hurts, resolving stresses that build up over time, and moving forward to expand communication, connection, intimacy, and partnership. Relationships shift and change over time, and in our work we can acknowledge how a relationship shows up and how everybody shows up in it. We will work towards engaging with both you and others in whatever ways the relationship is or isn't working.
Brainspotting, discovered by Dr. David Grand, is a neurobiological and relational process -"where you look affects how you feel". Brainspotting finds spots where people look that connects to parts of the brain that in turn connect to parts of our nervous system in our body where trauma is "stored". By accessing these spots in our brain we can focus, process, and release many body based and emotional experiences.
We can incorporate brainspotting in our therapy to support our healing.
Relationship Trauma describes the experiences we have with other people that brings out trauma responses in us because of our previous relational experiences. This can look just like our response to specific traumatic events such as a car accident.
For many trauma isn't just about a one time experience that happened to us. Instead, we also have responses to how our families or other relationships in our lives have shaped us.
This isn't about bad parenting or abuse. It's a pattern of difficulty in relational experiences that may have shown up in our families due to intergenerational trauma, colonization, abuse, or even capitalism. When we can't be our full selves as children this may show up our relationships and how we view ourselves later on.
If you relate to the examples in this article or if you feel like you struggle in relationships, identify as having social anxiety, never are your authentic self, feel exhausted by being around other people you might have some relational trauma to heal.
Relational Trauma as Colonial Wounds
For many BIPOC identifying people raised with "narcissistic" or emotional unavailable caregivers identifying the ways their caregivers may be enacting colonial wounds can be a powerful part of healing.
Understanding intergenerational trauma in the context of these colonial wounds begins to create space for you and your caregivers to be seen in the fullness of all the ways families treat each other and frees you from having to continue the harm.
BIPOC caregivers/families who use substances, labeled narcissistic, emotionally unavailable, physically unavailable all can be held in this framework.
Trauma can include recent, ongoing, or historical experience with traumatic events, relationships, family histories and stories, and community histories and stories. This includes PTSD and C-PTSD, other trauma related diagnosis, and the many ways you might be and feel impacted in the world and in yourself.
Trauma can show up in many ways, impacting bodies, emotions, task completion, organization, relationships, your sense of purpose, your ability to create and relate, and so much more. I work with certain responses to trauma that are labeled as mental health issues such as depression/anxiety, substance use, "personality disorders" and others.
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